- How much stress is this causing you?
- How much does it affect your ability to feel joy?
- How much does it impact the quality of your life?
Perfectionists often don’t think that they are perfectionists, because they see themselves as being far from perfect! Perfectionism is often mistaken for ‘being perfect’ or ‘doing something perfectly’. Many people assume that it must be a positive thing. However other people think of being a perfectionist is negative. So, is perfectionism a good or a bad thing?
Perfectionism involves putting enormous pressure upon ourselves to meet very high standards, which then greatly influences the way we view ourselves.
A perfectionist’s self-worth is greatly influenced upon your ability to strive for, and achieve your unrelenting standards, despite the huge personal costs and negative consequences of setting such expectations. Perfectionists often suffer from high levels of stress and overwhelm, an inability to relax and live in the moment, adrenal fatigue, depression, and anxiety in their pursuit of trying to being perfect.
An overused strength becomes a weakness! Of course perfectionism does have some very positive benefits, eg, helping you to set goals and have high standards. However, perfectionism becomes unproductive when it involves the constant pursuit of unrealistic self-imposed high standards. Then judging one’s self-worth on the inability to meet these unrealistic benchmarks, and going through life often feeling like a failure. For instance, perfectionists tend to be highly self-critical when they do not meet their standards, or will minimise their accomplishments, and negatively compare themselves to others when they achieve their goals.
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