Published Date: 26/07/2019
Updated Date: 10/11/2025


Goal setting is an important part of life. Whether for self-improvement or self-care, or to be more successful in career or study; setting goals is key to achieving the growth that we’re hoping for. No matter what your goals are, achieving them can be difficult without the proper tools. Here, we uncover 4 simple, actionable tools to help you reach your goals.
‘The frog’ is a concept first popularised by Brian Tracy in his manifesto, Eat That Frog. The frog is that thing that we least want to do. Big or small, it’s a task that always ends up on the bottom of the pile, whether it’s because it’s too challenging or overwhelming, it’s not seen as a priority, or because the thought of it stresses us out. The problem with leaving the frog until last (or never) is that it can hold up our progress and weigh on our minds – even if we don’t realise it!
And so, the way to tackle the frog is to take care of it first.
Before you accomplish any other tasks for your day, week, or month, get the frog done first (if it is a large task, break it down in actionable smaller tasks and work on it task by task, making the daily or weekly task for the frog first priority).
You’ll be surprised at just how much weight it takes off the mind and how it propels you forward with gusto into the rest of your tasks!
Isn’t it so easy to feel overwhelmed by everything on your ‘to do’ list? One of the first things many of us tend to do when we feel overwhelmed is to push our goals to the side and try to forget about them. To keep yourself accountable and on-track and ultimately reach your goals, one of the greatest tools is accountability.
So, nominate a couple of trusted people to confide in about your goals, and agree to check in with them regularly about your progress.
And remember – we all have setbacks; It’s a normal part of progress! The important thing is to get right back on the horse. Be sure that your confidants are ready to support you throughout your progress, setbacks and all.
It might sound obvious, but be sure that you’re setting your own goals, and not letting others set them for you. One of the most successful ways to ensure you don’t stay motivated to reach your goals is to have goals that you haven’t set for yourself. Be sure to assess what it is you really want, recognise the intention behind your goal, and be sure that it’s not something you’re striving for because of what others expect from you. To feel motivated to achieve anything there has to be a big enough WHY?
When setting goals, ask yourself, “How will my life be difference once I achieve this goal?”
Have you heard of the 5 second rule? Created by Mel Robbins, the 5 Second Rule shot to stardom during a TEDx Talk back in 2013. Her talk is now one of the top 20 TEDx talks ever!
The five second rule is based on the notion that:
“Our thoughts and feelings are at war, and when there is a discourse between what you know you should be doing and what you feel like doing, your feelings will always win.”
Sound familiar? It’s a recognisable story for almost all of us. Getting up and going to the gym, or sleeping in a little longer? Cooking a healthy meal, or ordering in? Finishing off that project early, or leaving it to the last minute? Which option generally wins? It’s the thing you feel like doing, rather than what you know is the right thing to do.
As much as this behaviour is a part of human nature, it doesn’t have to be this way! The 5 second rule is an incredibly simple and very powerful tool for overcoming our own tendency to choose the ‘easy’ option. Mel Robert’s definition of the 5 second rule:
“If you have an impulse to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill the idea.”
So, the next time your brain struggles with the choice between what you should be doing and what you feel like doing, don’t even give your brain time to think about it. Within 5 seconds, take some form of action towards the ‘should do’ goal, no matter how small. Here are some examples:
Are you ready to finally reach your goals, whatever they might be? Integrated Health Specialists has a range of structured programs, from personal training, to life coaching, counselling, psychology and more. Get in touch today and let’s work together, do some good planning and hold you accountable to reach your goals!
Author:
Michelle van Namen is a Psychologist, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Life Coach and Integrative Health Practitioner with over 30 years of international experience working with human behaviour and improving mental health. Established in 2006, Integrated Health Specialists is her psychology practice located on the Gold Coast.
BA (Hons) in Psychology – University of Wollongong, 1995
Registered Psychologist with the Psychology Board (AHPRA) PSY0001395059
Member of the Australian Association of Psychologists Inc (AAPI) 15525
Medicare and Health Insurance Provider